January 7, 2019 05:17
Updated January 7, 2019 17:33
Playing sports, climbing stairs, sleeping and mldr; and to practice sex: it is not the same thing to do with 20 years than with 50 years.
Our body changes as we age, and the physical changes we experience also affect sexuality.
However, not everything that causes aging is negative: From a certain age we have more communication skills and less inhibitions, which can be a great resource in bed.
And, regardless of age, there are always things that can be done to have a more satisfying sex life.
Therefore, we present a list of readily available tips, developed by Harvard Medical School, which, although designed for older couples, are actually useful for all ages.
It is important to be well informed about the sexual problems we think we have. Photo: GETTY PHOTOS
There is a lot of valid self-help material available about sexual problems. Find the one that suits you best and make sure both you and your partner are well informed.
And if they find it violent to talk about it face to face, they can replace the passages that were most interesting to them.
2. Give yourself time
As we get older, sexual reflexes are reduced.
Thus, it usually takes more time to reach orgasm, which is why it is easier to achieve in a calm, comfortable and uninterrupted environment.
Investing more time in love can lead us to new sexual experiences.
Lubricating gels can be useful in combating vaginal dryness. Photo: GETTY PHOTOS
It is common that the transition to menopause is accompanied by vaginal dryness, which can be corrected with lubricating gels.
They are useful to avoid painful intercourse, which usually leads to problems with libido and tension in the couple.
4. Be affectionate
While bedtime problems worry you and you are excited, kissing and hugging are crucial to maintaining emotional and physical bonding.
Kissing is important for maintaining emotional and physical bonds. Photo: GETTY PHOTOS
5. Practice the contact
Many therapists recommend sensory focus techniques to restore physical intimacy without feeling pressured.
It's about touching each other while each one concentrates on their perceptions and their sensuality.
6. Try different sexual positions
Expanding the repertoire into positions, as well as making sex more interesting, can help overcome certain issues.
Some positions make it easier for the woman to reach orgasm.
Sharing your own fantasies can help improve your relationship. Photo: GETTY PHOTOS
7. Write your fantasies
It's about exploring practices that you think will be exciting for you or your partner.
For example, think of situations that are exciting and explain them. This exercise is especially useful for couples with little sexual desire.
8. Try the Kegel exercises
Kegel exercises are used to strengthen the pelvic muscles.
What are they? It's about tightening the muscle we contract when we try to stop the urine. Hold it for two or three seconds and relax. Repeat 10 times for five series a day.
Doing so will improve the physical conditions of sexual life.
The more relaxed, the better sex. Photo: GETTY PHOTOS
9. Try to relax
Do something that calms you and makes you feel good before you start having sex, such as going out to dinner or practicing relaxation techniques like breathing exercises.
10. Use vibrators
Vibrators can help women know each other better sexually, so they can explain to their partner what they like.
11. Don't give up
If, despite having tried it, the situation will not improve, do not despair.
Go to your doctor to help or contact a sexual therapist who identifies what robs you of having a satisfactory sex life.