The failure of an immigration court on Wednesday to deport Joe Giudice to his native Italy after his prison sentence took his wife Teresa Giudice by surprise.
A source close to The real housewives of New Jersey The star tells PEOPLE that Theresa, 46, "never imagined that Joe would actually be deported."
"This is going to break it," says the insider. "She always knew that this was a possibility, but it was taken out of her head. That's the only way I could continue living day to day. "
PEOPLE confirmed Joe's deportation on Wednesday through a spokesperson for the Executive Office for Immigration Review of the US Department of Justice. They say Joe will have 30 days to appeal the decision.
Joe is currently serving a 41-month prison sentence for mail fraud, bank transfer and bankruptcy that began in March 2016. She is scheduled to be released in 2019. Teresa served a little over 11 months in prison for the same crimes and was released. On December 23, 2015.
Teresa was not in immigration court with Joe on Wednesday, although she appeared from prison via Skype, according to RadarOnline.
Her decision not to go to court is not surprising for the source, which points again to Teresa's decision to focus on the positive. "That's why she hates going to see him in jail, too, it's like" keep busy and do not think about the bad things ". [It’s] A very Italian way of being ", explains the source.
"Joe encourages Teresa to be like that," the source adds. "He feels very guilty about what happened and would prefer that she simply stay focused on her girls and their homework rather than worry about another of her problems." It's sad, but it will be too hard to ignore. "
As difficult as it is, a second source close to Teresa, who shares her daughters Gia, 17, Gabriella, 14, Milania, 12, and Audriana, 9, with Joe, "will overcome this."
"Teresa is incredibly strong, and whether she admits it or not, I think she had secretly prepared for this," says the source. "Since Joe left, Teresa has grown in independence, she has taken control of her life and raised those girls well."
"It's sad, but he's going to handle this as well as he has handled everything else," the source continues. "She will put aside her own feelings to make sure that her daughters are being taken care of, Teresa is a big girl, she will put a brave face on all of that."
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Meanwhile, it is not clear if Joe will appeal the court's decision.
When contacted by PEOPLE, his immigration attorneys still had no comments. James J. Leonard Jr., the lawyer for the Giudice family, also declined to comment on Wednesday's news, as did Bravo.
In May, a source told PEOPLE that the two could not wait to "be a family again."
"These last years have been difficult for everyone," the source said, adding that Teresa and Joe "can not wait to get together."
The new season of RHONJ opens on November 7 in Bravo.