OPINION: You must laugh at the French author Yann Moix.
If you hadn't heard, he was the author who triggered a four-storm of internet competition after he announced that women over 50 were "too old" to love.
Apparently, the 50-year-old, while the body of a 25-year-old woman is "extraordinary," is the fleshy tray of a guy 50 years old "nothing extraordinary at all". Women of a certain age, the cavorting croissant-wielding Casanova declared, are "invisible" to him. Ask women around the world to sigh if only women under 50 can be invisible to you too …
It's a pretty wrong argument to make for a Frenchman, given that the country had Carla Bruni as a first lady a few years ago, who at 51 is so supernaturally beautiful I'm surprised she doesn't ooze starred from her forearms. But Bruni's beauty aside, this argument is still just biscuits.
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You hear it a lot though, this idea that 20-somethings are on the shelf on top of a man's data pyramid. (Women wisely never saw young dudes on top of the dating pyramid. Probably because they have taken into account how unsexy someone is when they think it's okay to have dirty lingerie the next day by turning it inside out. Yummy.)
But the myth is definitely still alive and well in dating culture. Hang on with a 20-something woman in any bar that is expensive enough to require you to wear lace, and you will hear a guy say, "I'm just not attracted to women of my own age, I'm just attracted of women like you in their 20s. "He will inevitably be a 45-plus man named Steven, who is separated by two teenage children he does not see much of, and an untouched white jeep he sees a lot of. He will even show you pictures of the Jeep so you can see it too. He can even, if you are really blessed, call you in the morning so you can listen to the sound of it putting on.
I promise it's not flattering to be confronted with the guy who puts timestamps in how many years you've left before falling into the spinster, irrelevant, dying-alone-with-feral-cats-eating-our-face blurring. Charmant.
But most of it just makes me laugh because you don't really want to dance anyone in my age. It is one of the things that dudes say all the time without realizing the practical implications of it. It's like having a cute puppy, just dumping it at the SPCA two months later when you realize how much work it is. Have you tried to dance a 20 something? We are hard work. I'm 24 and I didn't want to date me.
For a start, we are not exactly educated at home. You may think you will spend most of the relationship with ecstatic sex while listening to, fully enlightened music. You will actually use it to wander around after we have taken up a path of wet towels that we decided to waste in surprising places two days ago. Resting hairpins will breed in the rain shower shower, dirty clothes will multiply on your custom leather sofas, and you will eat canned tuna for dinner, with chopsticks, from a shoe.
We are fresh out of either living with our parents or shared houses, where everything was done for us at the laundry or no one cared if it wasn't. So there is a certain level of obliviousness that is not often compatible with the domestic happiness that Steven and his jeep expect.
Although they were willing to do the emotional work of teaching us to be adults – often unlikely, given the alien relationship with their own children – have you ever considered how boring it is?
Anyone who knows anything about happy relationships, tells you that it is personality, not seeing or intelligence, it is the strongest guarantee of a good relationship. And while we can be nice, we also rage hot-20s fairs of insecurity, confusion and permanent panic about the girl at work (who I don't like, but I want to like me) was upset by also- informal smiley face emoji I used in a job email on Tuesday … Maybe you want a relationship filled with hour-long emoji anxiety rants, but it drills myself to tear, and I have to listen to it because it's in my own head.
And I know that the big retort of all this is that we make you feel young. Sharing the millennia makes you feel like you are getting a new bash on youthful freedom. But the irony is that if you are unsure of your age, then you will be hypersensitive every time we do not know what Space Invaders are. So really you want to spend your life tripping over conversations that make you feel so young and hip as dial-up internet.
So if you want to feel good about yourself, take up Zumba – it's less work, more rewarding, and you'll probably meet a guy over 40 who will make you happy.