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Few people fall as hard or as fast as Jennifer Lopez.
The Second law the star has been dating Alex Rodriguez since early 2017, and she couldn't be happier than she is right now. It took a while to come here, of course, as she admits in the February issue of Harper's Bazaar: "For me, the relationship journey has been very up and down, but it didn't have to do with anyone else, but me – it was about me finding out."
"Until you learn to love yourself, you can't quite love [someone else] in a way that is pure and true. Once you have done that, you can have relationships that are based on love and respect that are supportive and nourishing. It's an evolution there that has to happen to me, says the multifunctional superstar, who has been married three times. "I feel like I'm in a better place now."
Lopez, who has undergone a high profile breakdown Ben Affleck, Marc Anthony, Sean "Diddy" Combs and Casper Smart, never gave up on love or self. "I have two wonderful kids and a boyfriend. I haven't figured everything out, and everything's not perfect," she says. "But I feel very proud that with all the things I've gone through in my personal life, I'm still optimistic and hopeless." At times, life in the limelight can be difficult. And even though she has developed a thick skin over the years, she would not even see her name in the tabloids. "You're trying to do your best and people sit down or try to think you're not a good person or you're a diva," complains Lopez. "I'm always like," Who are you talking about? ""
Early in her career, Lopez realized she was considered a role model for millions. But more than anything, she feels responsible for showing her two children what it means to be good people. "When I had children, I realized I had to get better and do better. Not just for them, but for myself. It's about being responsible for another person who makes you go," OK, what does I'm for myself? How can I take care of someone else if I can't even take care of myself? How can I teach them how to treat them if I allow people to treat me in a way that is not pleasant? How can I teach them to be hard workers if I don't work hard? & # 39; "she tells the magazine (available January 22)." I started investigating myself from all different angles. "
Lopez is particularly proud of her long life in show business.
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"At this point in my life I try to give myself more credit. It's difficult when people always tell you you're not good at things or say," Why is she successful? "You get a lot of it when you are a successful woman. You don't get that much when you are a man. Especially with people, women, you can have 12 people telling you you are great, but one person puts it You down, it's the voice that sits in your head … So finally you go, "Wait, I'm not lying. I've done this for a long time. This is not a mistake. I worked hard to be here. & # 39; And you know what? Congratulations to myself. Not in an arrogant way, in any way, "" Dinero "tells the singer." It's like, "You're doing well, baby. Give yourself a break." "
She admits that she is an "unemployed", says Lopez: "At the end of the day, I just feel like I want to make and sing and dance and act and make movies and write books and direct and produce and perform. I'm excited when I work on a new project. "She gets tired" a lot ", but she never thought about throwing in the towel. "I just think I need a break. I really feel that I have a lot left that I want to do. I don't know if I ever get to a point where I will be happy and go," I did. I'm finished. I have nothing else to say, "she admits." I hope that day never comes. "