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The Smith family is letting their fans see what happened behind closed doors all these years.
In the last installment of Red Talk Table, Willow Smith, Jada Pinkett-Smith Y Will Smith relive a dark moment in her family history, beginning the year in which Jada turned 40 years old. "I think the turning point in our relationship happened when I turned 40," Jada said. "That's when I had a mid-life crisis."
Will, apparently feeling that he had the answer to his problems, came up with a grand plan to surprise her with a documentary film about Jada, which would include tapes never seen before of her grandmother. "It would be a splash! Mary J. Blige Scented, the film debuted, all that. It would be what would get her out of this crisis of middle age, "he thought at that moment.
However, when the big day came, Will was upset to see that Jada gave him a reaction he did not expect. She remembered: "Then, Jada had to sit there and listen in. Now I understand very well, at that time I did not, but she listens to these tapes never heard before of one of the most beloved people she has ever met in her life. all these people, she keeps it together. "
After her big revelation, Jada said that she simply wanted "intimate time" to reflect on the video and that she should cancel any other birthday plan she had made for her, much to Will's disappointment. "She was like," It's my birthday, right? "And she told me the party was the most ridiculous show of my ego, crushed, and to this day, I know I was crushed because it was It was not a party for her, "he explained.
But, because he did not understand his decision at that moment, he remembered that he "broke up." Will said: "I stopped in front of Willow, just once in her childhood, she ever saw me jump and I saw her look and Willow starts to cry." I said: "Baby, I'm sorry." She's Like, just discover it! Guys, please, find out. "
This turned out to be a defining moment for Jada, who learned to have the "courage to just say no".
"I had to have the courage to unravel it and to realize that in the next 40, I have to do it my way, this next half should be directed by an image for me," explained Jada.
She added: "There was so much that it was not me that lived, so much authenticity, I think there are many more people who live lives that are not faithful to them because of their fear, so I understand, there is no judgment, I did it."
Jada admitted that it was partly because she tried so hard to "live up to an idea" for Will. Unfortunately, this even applied to Willow, who struggled with her own identity at an early age. Will recounted the pride he had in Willow when she went on a tour of "Whip My Hair", until one day she confessed how unhappy she was.
"She was like," It's okay, I'm done, dad. "I was like," Honey, you can not do it. You know, you made a commitment. "She said: & # 39; But I'm done. & # 39; I was like, & # 39; No, honey, but you can not finish, you committed to Mr. Jay Z. – No, dad, you made a commitment to Mr. Jay Z & # 39; "
Willow did not remember this, but Jada remembered: "You said:" Dad, does not matter if it's over? "
And Will remembered saying, "Yes, honey, it does matter a lot, it does, but you can not do it."
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"She went down the next day and shaved her head, I was like," Does she know what she's doing? "As if that was a deep protest," Will shared. "What she did for me is that I realized something at the time, I was building what I wanted for her and she tried all the different ways of saying:" I do not want that. "It was like & # 39; I understand. I saw for the first time what Jada had been saying about hiding behind my ego, my dreams and my desires and pretending it was her love, and I realized that I did not want anything that he had built. "
Even through the drama of all this, however, "never" considered divorce as an option. Despite media reports, Jada insisted: "I had never seen a divorce lawyer, it never crossed my mind."
And Will felt the same. "I had divorced before, I was not going to get divorced again, divorce was not an option, there was a time when I was afraid that she could do it," she said.
That said, Jada said that she and Will do not think there's anything wrong with getting divorced. He assured the observers: "I do not want to lead this board to make people feel that the divorce is wrong, sometimes that's what you need for what you need to find out about your situation and about yourself, right?"
However, Will and Jada knew they had to work hard if they wanted to fix their marriage. Will said: "I was devastated even worse than a divorce, we broke our marriage and we got together again and we had to rebuild with new rules, something completely different."
To repair their relationship, Will said, "I left for two years, I worked on myself, I read 50 books about marriage and relationships and behavioral psychology, I was not going to fail in this marriage, but I closed for two. to see what I was doing wrong. "
Now, years later, the two have changed a lot about who they are and how they see their relationship. "We do not even call ourselves married anymore," shared Jada. "It is a society of life in the sense that we have created a foundation together that we know is for this life."
At the end of their discussion, Will told Jada: "Do you know why I never divorced?"
"It's cheaper to stay," joked Jada.
"Because I've never met someone like you and I knew that if I was not with you, I would be looking in vain for the rest of my life," Will said.