Dear Abby: Recently, something emerged in my life that drove the unstable relationship between my girlfriend, "Linnay" and my parents. She insists that they do not like her. Because of this, she rarely speaks to them more than a few sentences and is afraid to go to my house to visit them.
I do not think my parents dislike Linnay, but they seem to hesitate to interact with her, involve her in what our family does and do not seem motivated to create a better relationship with her.
Linnay has asked me to "fix" the situation, but I think the way to improve their relationship is for THEY to solve it. What should each of them do to make this happen? And what can I do to help?
Dear Anonymous: This is not something your girlfriend can solve alone. Ask your parents why they seem to hesitate to interact with her, why they do not invite her to do things that the family does and why they seem less willing to create a better relationship with her. Linnay may be shy or may have picked up signals not so subtle that her parents are sending and they do not agree with her.
Dear Abby: I'm 11. My parents are not in my life, so my grandparents are my guardians. I am grateful for everything they do, but I am very scared because my grandfather is 85 years old, and I know he will soon leave this world. So, how do I accept that?
Dear one in need of a prayer: A wise person once told me that the way to ruin today is to spend it worrying about what "could" happen tomorrow. Many people much older than you make that mistake. It is clear that you love and appreciate your grandfather. Tell him – often. Think well and enjoy it as long as the good God allows it, because if your grandfather is in good health, it can last a lot longer than you think.
Dear Abby: How do I make my roommates do homework? I have tried to talk to them, creating task tables and explaining that we will lose our security deposit if we do not take care of the house. Nothing works If I do not want sticky counters, pots and pans in ruins, or accumulated garbage, I have to do it myself. Any advice would be appreciated.
Dear not your servant: Whose name is in that lease? If it's not yours, the most logical thing would be to find a place to live with more mature roommates who feel the way you do about clutter and hygiene. However, if it is yours, you will have to wait until the end of the lease, get rid of those roommates and analyze the next lot more carefully.