It's usually a taboo and many are embarrassed. But according to the article published by North American media, where three different experts are quoted, it is the perfect moment for "Learn skills and concepts that allow young people to become sexually healthy adults. "
Next, advice from Kim Cavill, Lydia M. Bowers and Melissa Carnagey to the parents:
1. Don't wait until they reach puberty
Cavill recommends addressing the question, gradually, from before this stage of man, which is usually between 9 and 16 years. In addition, he says it's a good idea to talk about non-sexual pleasure: "I like how the wind feels on my face", "The purple color makes me feel good", such as the little ones begin to understand that there is no reason to be ashamed of the things that make you feel good.
2. It's normal!
Getting them to complain or telling them that it is not right can have a negative impact on their future behavior and generate self-depreciation. Tutor Melissa Canagey even recommends some lines for when you discover that your son is masturbating:
"I see you're touching your penis / vagina / anus. It feels good, right? Touching those parts of the body feels very different from touching others like knees or eyebrows. I'm glad you discover your body because the bodies are very good. "
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Similarly, the expert says that self-exploration will help detect inappropriate touch of another person.
3. There is something that is done in private
It is important to remind them that touching their private parts is done in a place where no one can see them and even indicate where they can do so in case they want to.
4. The educational aids do not go beyond
Experts recommend using books that are in the market or videos on YouTube, such as the one suggested by Huffington (in English):
5. Parents, don't worry too much
Needless to think too much about how many times the kids masturbate. Experts remember that you only need to be concerned when children injure themselves or whose masturbation interferes with their daily lives.
6. That the punishment does not come from the parents
No matter how they were raised, it is important not to convey the same myths and taboos on the subject of a new generation. Talking about the topic is normally the key.